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Jon Paulson was just 19 years old when he enlisted in the Marines. He spent six months training at Camp Pendleton in San Diego in 1964-1965. ?The training is very, very rigorous,? says Paulson. ?You do things over and over and over again and you become good at it. And being good at something gives you confidence.?

That training gave Paulson crucial confidence, which he would need a few months later, when, in July 1965, he was deployed as part of the second wave of Marines to enter South Vietnam. He was in charge of a platoon of 40 men, and was just 22 years old.

?The number one objective in the Marines is to complete the mission; the second is to protect the men in the platoon,? says Paulson. ?So the mission supersedes the safety of the men. As a platoon leader, you know you?re going to have to send a squad directly into the line of fire, but you have to do that to accomplish the greater mission.?

When making those kinds of calls, you absolutely must project confidence, he says. ?Even if you?re leading just four people, you have to have confidence ? and have to have the confidence of those three men in your command,? says Paulson.

The same principle which works for the Marines ? aggressive training to increase confidence ? can be applied in the civilian world. ?If you get up and speak a lot then you get better at it and you will get more confident,? says Paulson.

Exercise:

Paulson was trained for confidence by the U.S. Marines. But you can train yourself to be confident as well.

It starts with steady and deliberate practice, and continually testing yourself to live on the edge of failure.

LaRae Quy, the author of Secrets of a Strong Mind, suggests a strategy to increase your confidence by overcoming smaller failures. The goal is to help you become more confident in the face of larger challenges. Create a ?petri dish? in your life, writes Quy, ?a little area in which [you?re] not succeeding.? This could mean learning a musical instrument or a new sport or studying a new language.

By challenging yourself on a daily basis with a skill you are not fully mastering, ?you develop greater confidence in your skills and training and avoid greater meltdowns when the larger failures do occur,? says Quy.